Sunday, February 21, 2010

Grow up

So WHAT? I mean it. So WHAT that Bud Keene when talking to Shaun White used the F word among other expletives. yeah yeah yeah I get it that the Olympics is supposed to be sparkly clean and all, but as an athlete I know that althetic language is NEVER clean, and this is a grown up talking to another grown up that he has coached and known for how many years. Let us point out that Shaun White had just won another Gold Medal. Yes I know his reaction is news, but were you seriously surprised when this got said? Bud White moved in front of his athlete to say this privately, and NBC turned up the volume to hear them. So I gotta ask you, who is the idiot here?

collusion in one's own oppression

A survey of 1000 households in London resulted in the finding that a majority of women believe that if a woman has been raped it is at least partly her fault.

(sound of my head exploding)

This is sexism and is a blatant example of how women collude in their own oppression. This is how women perpetrate violence on other women; by making allowances for it in their cognitive world. The thinking is that men hurt women. e.g. That is how it has always been, and men would not do such a thing if it were not deserved. If a woman is hurt it is because SHE did something, never once asking why the man thought it was okay. This forgives violence from men, and allows women to become scapegoats in the social epidemic called rape.

Under NO circumstances does ANYONE deserve violence, especially violence of a degrading nature involving the use of sex as power. It is never okay to commit a violent act against anyone, but it especially not okay to commit violence as a show of force or domination.

When phrased like this many women agree, but then fail to make the connection between this statement and the idea of rape, often confusing the act with sex. this is exemplified in that the article went onto explain that these women believed that she deserved it more if she had had sex with the guy before the rape. Implying that once you have sex with someone you are under an obligation to always have sex with him, even if it was bad sex, with someone you are not married to, or if the first time you had sex with the guy, you weren't sure how to say no. And what if you were raped the first time, does that mean you have be subject to the rape over and over again? Really?

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Don't be Common

A friend on Facebook just posted that her boss left his door open while having a private conversation about his daughter banging someone in the bathroom at school.


Now I am a feminist and I believe in the sexual freedom that women enjoy today, but I am also a Southerner and think that manners are manners are manners. And if the Dad leaves his door open to publicly have what should be a private conversation, then it is no wonder that his daughter did, in effect, the same thing.

This might just be a rant about manners and displaying yourself publicly for no good reason other than you have no manners. Displaying your bad behavior publicly for a political reason is a thing that I understand and even applaud, since my feminist roots are mired in punk (which, by the way is a philosophy and not just a type of music). However, I fail to discern how showing your hoo hoo or being doggie-fucked in a bathroom at your high school is even close to political.

I think it is bad manners and just plain stupid.

As my Steel Magnolia of a mama would say, it is just common, and THAT, to a Southerner, is the worst crime of all.

This, I will grant you, is an extreme case, and does in fact, argue the point in quite a graphic and almost psychotic way. So moving into a realm of sanity, I will point out that if you are going to have bad manners about something that you want people to take you seriously in, like a political gesture, then it is in your BEST interest to have good manners most of the time. This is so when the bad thing happens, people will not dismiss it as you just being you. It also gives a certain amount of credibility to your statement as not crazy, because you have always behaved in such a decorous manner before.

This is a lesson I learned a little too late in life, (although boinking in a bathroom was never my style) and is why I am the Debutante Gone Wrong.

Thursday, February 4, 2010