Sunday, February 21, 2010

collusion in one's own oppression

A survey of 1000 households in London resulted in the finding that a majority of women believe that if a woman has been raped it is at least partly her fault.

(sound of my head exploding)

This is sexism and is a blatant example of how women collude in their own oppression. This is how women perpetrate violence on other women; by making allowances for it in their cognitive world. The thinking is that men hurt women. e.g. That is how it has always been, and men would not do such a thing if it were not deserved. If a woman is hurt it is because SHE did something, never once asking why the man thought it was okay. This forgives violence from men, and allows women to become scapegoats in the social epidemic called rape.

Under NO circumstances does ANYONE deserve violence, especially violence of a degrading nature involving the use of sex as power. It is never okay to commit a violent act against anyone, but it especially not okay to commit violence as a show of force or domination.

When phrased like this many women agree, but then fail to make the connection between this statement and the idea of rape, often confusing the act with sex. this is exemplified in that the article went onto explain that these women believed that she deserved it more if she had had sex with the guy before the rape. Implying that once you have sex with someone you are under an obligation to always have sex with him, even if it was bad sex, with someone you are not married to, or if the first time you had sex with the guy, you weren't sure how to say no. And what if you were raped the first time, does that mean you have be subject to the rape over and over again? Really?