Tuesday, February 16, 2010

Don't be Common

A friend on Facebook just posted that her boss left his door open while having a private conversation about his daughter banging someone in the bathroom at school.


Now I am a feminist and I believe in the sexual freedom that women enjoy today, but I am also a Southerner and think that manners are manners are manners. And if the Dad leaves his door open to publicly have what should be a private conversation, then it is no wonder that his daughter did, in effect, the same thing.

This might just be a rant about manners and displaying yourself publicly for no good reason other than you have no manners. Displaying your bad behavior publicly for a political reason is a thing that I understand and even applaud, since my feminist roots are mired in punk (which, by the way is a philosophy and not just a type of music). However, I fail to discern how showing your hoo hoo or being doggie-fucked in a bathroom at your high school is even close to political.

I think it is bad manners and just plain stupid.

As my Steel Magnolia of a mama would say, it is just common, and THAT, to a Southerner, is the worst crime of all.

This, I will grant you, is an extreme case, and does in fact, argue the point in quite a graphic and almost psychotic way. So moving into a realm of sanity, I will point out that if you are going to have bad manners about something that you want people to take you seriously in, like a political gesture, then it is in your BEST interest to have good manners most of the time. This is so when the bad thing happens, people will not dismiss it as you just being you. It also gives a certain amount of credibility to your statement as not crazy, because you have always behaved in such a decorous manner before.

This is a lesson I learned a little too late in life, (although boinking in a bathroom was never my style) and is why I am the Debutante Gone Wrong.

1 comment:

  1. Manners are important but somehow, some way, they have gone out of style. "Kids these days!" But really, it seems like not only has chivalry died but so have simple manners. I very rarely see people saying please and thank you, and often get surprised looks from folks in the service industry when I say it to them.

    My boss's daughter seemed to have good manners the few times I met her. But I guess being nice to people doesn't always mean you will be nice to yourself. The only person she's really hurting here is herself. She's going to have a hard time reclaiming the dignity she lost on that bathroom floor (or wall or whatever).